A friend in need is a friend in deed...

I have always been thinking about this adage ..Which according to me would mean..
"A person who comes to ur rescue when ur in trouble is a true friend".
Well i have always given a helping hand to some or the other even before they tell me what is the problem..I can understand what they are going through somehow and try to help them ..Is this a negative thing or a problem with me ..Should i stop helping them or wait they themselves ask me for some help..There are times when i really needed some1 to talk and till now i have never recived that true friend ..To tell the truth i have lots of friends.. but i have not been able to find the true friend..every time i thinkya he/she can be my best buddy .. my hopes get shattered .. I remember that i had written about "Expectations"..and i know one shld not expect much from some1 and be dependent on them..but i think expecting some1 to give a patient ear to listen is not 2 much especially when u have been giving 100% to the other person.
Or is it me alone who thinks 2 much about all these silly things...

How Cruel..

Poor Prema... U must be wondering whos Prema...
Prema ia my annadata( cook ) ..
Without her i wld have to stay hungry ...
Shes my morning alaram :D
if she does not turn up for a day then i wld have to skip my breakfast .. skip my office that day ;) ..
skip my dinner.. and more important i wld have to skip my morning chit chat with her...
shes of my age and already shes married for 8 years now with two small kids...
Husband who does not care a damn abt nything when hes drunk...
so one might ask wats the so new about that ..
no one realises what he/she does when hes drunk...
But come one !! it does not mean one must beat some1 in a way which slits the lips into 2 .. have bruises on the body ..ITS ABSOULTELY NONSENSE....
Y do men drink and fall like pigs in the gutter.. cheeee i pity them
i do agree that there are some females who also drink.. but excuse me has anybody seen a female getting drunk and falling onthe roadside .. in the gutter..
Y cant men control themselves when they r drunk ..
or if they dont have the will power( which most of the men lack ) then why the hell they
DONT STOP DRINKING...
It was a saturday( which are exclusively reserved for waking up late :D)
when she came in the early morning (6:00 am , whichs 2 early 4 me ) i realised there was something wrong..
but then I thght i must be in sleep and everything is alright with her and went back to sleep ..
but poor lady she had to tell abt the incident that happened on the previous night ..and with much hesitation she dared to wake me up from sleep and started crying ..
to my surprise what am i seeing .. the cheerful , talkitive Prema in tears..
She had such a bad cut on her lips .. my God !( Was i dreaning ???) . i asked y did not u kick the guy .. she said if i did soo i dont know what he wld have done to me and my daughter ... and said because of wich she kept quite...
The neighbour who came to her rescue also got to listen to the raunchy , bad words from her husband ..
Areee y do ppl always think that if a girl/female goes with some1 there gonna be some relationship b/w them..Why cant ppl JUST CHANGE THIER THOUGHTS ABT SOMETHINGS...
And this is not the first time that something like this had happened to her ..
i asked to settel the matter and ask him to quit drinking .. or else tell him that she wld not mind quitting...
Although i said she can leave independently .. but what will she do for he bread and butter.. shes hardly studied...i was so helpless in this matter..
Had there been any educated and literate female in her place i think she wld have said a quit to the relationship..
Ya " I truly believe that all women shld be educated to face situations like this confidently"
Well i am telling this out of my own expecrience..how imp and valuable being educated can be..
This is not the only thing thats happening agnt the Women ..
On the other day to my horror i read abt "Honor Killing" which is legal in Islamic countries..
In an incident that took place in Pakistan an 18 year girls was victim of this so called Honor killing ..
Though she was not killed but her life was made more worse than death..
Her newly married husband dragged her out of the house and slit her lips and nose and he did this only bcs he had a doubt that she had extra martial affair.. HOW CRUEL ...
This is not the only kind .. the list of cruelities on WOMEN goes on ..
Gosh!!! y r the females always the victims of such things..
Since then i have been thinking how can we avoid such things from repeating in the future ...
but :( have not been able to get any ans...

Sometime after reading and listening to such things.. i feel its good to single and independent...