Whether ......

Hi there !! :) M back after almost an year...well when i last wrote a blog it was the time when i had just changed the job and entered the new one..with lot of speculations of how m going to be in the new profile, whether my previous work is gonna take a toll on me in the new job, whether I will be successful in the new work, whether I will be recognised in the new place, whether..... oh ! well this whether is non-stop, but believe me I am in the phase of career where I am more successful than ever before..

Well I thank mom, my friends and well-wishers and My God Amma Bhagavan without whom this would not have been possible. Honestly, my belief is getting stronger that every thing in life has a hidden agenda behind it.. and whatever happens has a very good reason behind it..

yes! my friends I am living examples of how one can change the bad things to better and bright opportunities, Dont loose ur heart , just leave the reins of ur life in the hands of best friend "the Almighty" and rest assured "He will Give u the best and what u deserve than what u desired for"..



So when u have doubt in urself , and are puzzled abt whether u will be able to do something, stop thinking and just act , have faith in him (God) and watch how things fall in place....

Signing off with loads of smile :) :)

Keep Smiling :)

DD

Vambahttu Thingalu (9 Months)

Vambatthu Thingalu(9 Months)
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Hmmm !
Yeah!! "9 MONTHS" its really a long time .. really really a long time ...
The last nine months have been full of pain , realisation , difficulties , troubled mind, negativity, dropping faith about life , not being open to change in life ; the zeored out confidence of getting life and happiness at the end.
Yeah I think it was the worst patch in my career where things did not work as I expected, though I put all my heart and soul into what I did , so that I did not give any chance to someone to point fingers at me, but the situations somehow always proved to be helpful for others who kept on taking advantage and credit of almost all the work I did.
Time and again I tried not to think how the other person was trying to get things done from me without giving the credit to me , tried moving ahead without wasting time thinking about the mounting pressure on me, dedicating 24*7 hours trying to give quality work and figuring out how do I make the other person realise my importance of the work what I did.

Now whom do I blame for the situation , the person who was majorly responsible for the choas that was created at my work or blame myself .
Hmm ! may be I am at fault to the maximum because
I always readily accepted my mistakes though they were not completely because of me alone, did not ever point the other persons mistakes.
did not realise that one needs to sell themselves by showcasing the work they did no matter how big or small it would have been
did not make the other person realise his shortcomings and tried always boosting the person
Tried to give a helping hand to the other person
Tried not to hurt any body
Oblige to orders etc etc....

I did all these things thinking that if I worked hard, without being selfish ,complete as much work possible , stop pointing fingers at others...
it would help me improve personally and yes it did, at the end of which I used to have satisfaction , but self satisfaction is not the only thing that matters, when u see that u are being ignored no matter any amount of great and good work u do , "IT HURTS, VERY BADLY".....and it hurts more when u see someone else in the same team who does the same work gets credit , recognistion "ITS FEELS LIKE HELL"..

I thought I will prove myself no mater at the cost my health took up more work , did not depend on anybody for any kind of help, produced quality results on time , but I think it was effort that was done all in vain. It was time for me to make some bold decision and yes " I DECIDED TO QUIT "...

I took sometime to understand that there was no point working there anymore, I think I took a lil more time to understand this.
Well intially I was very reluctant to take this step , did not know how do I proceed, what work I should look for etc etc..
But once I started it took sometime for things to fall in place...

This is the time when I realised that there were very very few people who were really concerned about me and my worries..
I got to know that the people who came and shared their problems , asked for some sugesstions are least bothered with my problems and concerns...
Yes I would like to stress our parents and siblings are the only people who will really support us , no matter what we would have done to them ..
hmm ! I got the opportunity to get to know those REAL FRIENDS who would really be with me always.
The most important thing that was lacking in me was "CONFIDENCE AND FAITH" in myself , I believe these are the two important things without which not a simple and small thing can be accomplished.
This was the time I became inclined towards spirtuality , it does not mean till then I did not believe in God , it was just that I realised where I went wrong in getting connected to Almighty God.
Those people who were really concerned about me asked to have faith in God and for once stop thinking negative and give the reins of my life to him , though i was very apprehensive in accepting what they said , but yes it worked WONDERS for me.
Yes he knows whats better for me and will always give THE BEST , I might have asked what I WANT but he awarded me the better things I DESERVED :D ..
I am very greatful to my GOD, my mom , my siblings and those friend who supported me greatly , had they not been there , I would had have not been able to get to the place where I am today.

Yes hardwork + effort + intention + faith in God + support from family and REAL friends was the reason for me to get to a better place where I am today where the work is more chanllenging and I am happy with the monetary increment I got( which was not at all a criteria for me).

I think that the kind of situations that were created in my previous workplace were for all good reasons, otherwise I would have never thought of leaving the work ( which I liked so much) and the organistation . I would have not realised my value outside .I WAS POURED WITH OFFERS. I could not believe myself.

Yeah the 9 months was testing phase in my life and made me clear about the faces and facts of life.I am truly happy that I came across certain situations very early in life...I have learnt a LOT of things during the course of time ...
"Time and again I have realised that whatever happens in ones life has some good reason behind it " .

There are many things I realised and I would like to share it with you , its really imp to
Take life as it comes .
Realise that nothing is permanent , even the bad times will pass away quickly :).
Ever cloud will has a silver lining.
Theres a new bright morning waiting to fade away the darkness.
Put ur effort in the right place and at right time , and yes ofcourse dont forget to bring it to the fore, dont ever think that others will identify u and recognise u , make it loud and clear of ur efforts that u have put and the work u have accomplished.
You need to be at right place at the right time , working with the right set of people.

Last but not the least " HAVE FAITH IN GOD AND URSELF" , it will work wonders. :D.

Yeah ! I know all the things in life is not a CAKE WALK , I have new responsibilities and new challenges which I need to achieve , but I think and hope to meet them without repeating the mistakes I did previously.

Of late I have been reading in the papers that employees are leaving/changing organistation because of their boss , Yes i agree to that , bcs I am the leaving example :D.

I know, I shared something with the whole world which is suppose to be kept to oneself ,although not a good feeling to share with others, but I thought my experience will help someone in a similar situation to know that there are many people who have gone through similar kind of situations and there is no reason to loose heart and have patience and wait for ur turn for good things.


As always Keep Smiling,
DD :D.

Better late than never

Life is full of desires ..
Whenever someone has something/someone they dont realise its value until the day he/she looses it ....
That is a natural human tendency ... greedy human beings .. always want to snatch what others have ...
They stop valuing their possesions and always think of something higher..
I do agree that one should dream to achieve higher , but not at the cost of disrespecting what they have.
Huh !! we need to start realising that what one has is priceless and value it and take care of it .....
Well possesion can be of many types ..it can be material/talent(knowledge)/a person ..
well for the first two types one can get many chances in life .. one can try hard to get them ,and will
surely get it without any doubt...
But believe me .. if the third type of possesion is lost.. that is if u loose someone who took good care of u ,
loved u , stood beside u in all ur difficulties , helped u , made u feel happy may be at his/her cost ....
spoke endlessly without there being anything to talk "Just to give company to u " .. blah blah ........
then its hard to get them back ..
We need to realise their value , respect/love/correct people around us ...
If we dont realise the importance of people in our life when they r with u .. I bet u will realise their importance
as soon as they are away from u...Its really hard to get those people back , the same attitude of theirs towards u once
they are away.....

So Better late than never... Do realise the value of ur near and dear ones before its too late...

A friend in need is a friend in deed...

I have always been thinking about this adage ..Which according to me would mean..
"A person who comes to ur rescue when ur in trouble is a true friend".
Well i have always given a helping hand to some or the other even before they tell me what is the problem..I can understand what they are going through somehow and try to help them ..Is this a negative thing or a problem with me ..Should i stop helping them or wait they themselves ask me for some help..There are times when i really needed some1 to talk and till now i have never recived that true friend ..To tell the truth i have lots of friends.. but i have not been able to find the true friend..every time i thinkya he/she can be my best buddy .. my hopes get shattered .. I remember that i had written about "Expectations"..and i know one shld not expect much from some1 and be dependent on them..but i think expecting some1 to give a patient ear to listen is not 2 much especially when u have been giving 100% to the other person.
Or is it me alone who thinks 2 much about all these silly things...

How Cruel..

Poor Prema... U must be wondering whos Prema...
Prema ia my annadata( cook ) ..
Without her i wld have to stay hungry ...
Shes my morning alaram :D
if she does not turn up for a day then i wld have to skip my breakfast .. skip my office that day ;) ..
skip my dinner.. and more important i wld have to skip my morning chit chat with her...
shes of my age and already shes married for 8 years now with two small kids...
Husband who does not care a damn abt nything when hes drunk...
so one might ask wats the so new about that ..
no one realises what he/she does when hes drunk...
But come one !! it does not mean one must beat some1 in a way which slits the lips into 2 .. have bruises on the body ..ITS ABSOULTELY NONSENSE....
Y do men drink and fall like pigs in the gutter.. cheeee i pity them
i do agree that there are some females who also drink.. but excuse me has anybody seen a female getting drunk and falling onthe roadside .. in the gutter..
Y cant men control themselves when they r drunk ..
or if they dont have the will power( which most of the men lack ) then why the hell they
DONT STOP DRINKING...
It was a saturday( which are exclusively reserved for waking up late :D)
when she came in the early morning (6:00 am , whichs 2 early 4 me ) i realised there was something wrong..
but then I thght i must be in sleep and everything is alright with her and went back to sleep ..
but poor lady she had to tell abt the incident that happened on the previous night ..and with much hesitation she dared to wake me up from sleep and started crying ..
to my surprise what am i seeing .. the cheerful , talkitive Prema in tears..
She had such a bad cut on her lips .. my God !( Was i dreaning ???) . i asked y did not u kick the guy .. she said if i did soo i dont know what he wld have done to me and my daughter ... and said because of wich she kept quite...
The neighbour who came to her rescue also got to listen to the raunchy , bad words from her husband ..
Areee y do ppl always think that if a girl/female goes with some1 there gonna be some relationship b/w them..Why cant ppl JUST CHANGE THIER THOUGHTS ABT SOMETHINGS...
And this is not the first time that something like this had happened to her ..
i asked to settel the matter and ask him to quit drinking .. or else tell him that she wld not mind quitting...
Although i said she can leave independently .. but what will she do for he bread and butter.. shes hardly studied...i was so helpless in this matter..
Had there been any educated and literate female in her place i think she wld have said a quit to the relationship..
Ya " I truly believe that all women shld be educated to face situations like this confidently"
Well i am telling this out of my own expecrience..how imp and valuable being educated can be..
This is not the only thing thats happening agnt the Women ..
On the other day to my horror i read abt "Honor Killing" which is legal in Islamic countries..
In an incident that took place in Pakistan an 18 year girls was victim of this so called Honor killing ..
Though she was not killed but her life was made more worse than death..
Her newly married husband dragged her out of the house and slit her lips and nose and he did this only bcs he had a doubt that she had extra martial affair.. HOW CRUEL ...
This is not the only kind .. the list of cruelities on WOMEN goes on ..
Gosh!!! y r the females always the victims of such things..
Since then i have been thinking how can we avoid such things from repeating in the future ...
but :( have not been able to get any ans...

Sometime after reading and listening to such things.. i feel its good to single and independent...

12 - 12

12-12
Well u must be wondering abt the title what does 12-12 means....
u will get it as u read ...So have patience....
Well 20th of feb was one of the best days in my life...
the day started at 12:00 am .Wonder y ??
There were 2 reasons for it.. 1 it was my lil sis bday ..
I feel very happy when i am the first person to wish someone on their bday so called up my sis @ sharp 12:00 am ( well i dont miss this somehow :D) and wished .. oh !! i could make out how happy she was to receive my call and that too on time :)..
so in the morning , as i always do on bday's of my near and dear ones ..went to temple and offered prayers...
Was in kind of happy mood , after all i love her so much .. She is the best sis in the world..though she is younger by age she is much much more mature when compared to her age..
Ask y ? the way she has handled somethings in life is amazing ..
yes this shows that circumstances teach everybody some kind of lesson..
Every day .. every situation u come across adds to ur experiences..
Gosh !! oh! i am dumbstruck by acts sometimes ..
i am very happy to have such cute lil sister...
Apart from this my day went as usual .. office .. work .. then back home ..
hmmmm !! how boring it was .. my roomie on phone .. me infront of TV..My phone lying beside me .. me sitting infront of TV ..
Tring tring got a call.. well it had been a longtime i had got call from that person .. and was bit surprised bcs i got the call @ 12:00 am on 21 feb ..
for a moment i was scared bcs i was getting some negative thght that something must have went wrong with the person...
I pick up the call..
Me : Hello , Hi .. How r u ? what a surprise .. u called me @ this hr.. wat happened ..everything alright( oh !! me and my non stop quess).b4 i said something more thank God the other person stooped me ..then
Other end:Ya i am fine, hey listen .. i have to share something with u ...Guess what .( i am slighty confused what happened)..Slinceeeeeee... me no clue...
Other end: The person whom i was seeing said is ready to spend their entire life with me.. Me:WOWWWWW!!!!!!!!!! Hey i am very happy for u .... ( u dont know how happy i was for my friend and bcs i had been asking the person to move ahead since very long and look i got the Good news.. )before i cld express my happiness....
Other end:Ok then I will talk to u sometime later..and the other person hangs up...Hmmmmmmmm !!! look for a moment i was so glad ...
Nevertheless i was veryyyyyyyyyyyyyyy happy for that person ..
i was reaaaalllllllllllllyyyyyyyyy happy ... now i hope u must have got wat 12- 12 means..
i started the day @ 12 am by making someone happy and my day ended at 12 am by some1else making me happy ..
:( but i am still unahppy that i was not able to express my happiness till now..
and till date i have hardly spoken with the other person..
May be the person is very busy !! LOL.....
So moral is
"Make some1 happy and u will get a similar kind of happiness from some1 else"..
SO keep Smiling ..and spread love..
DD :)

Time ..

Everybody in life looses one or the other thing , @ one or other time..
The loss might be a material or for that matter a loss of a dear and near one..
nothing is in our hands..i was so disturbed for the entire day when i heard the demise of my colleagues mom..though i did not reveal to anybody somewhere @ the back of my mind i had a fear , kind of weird thoughts disturbing me throught the day... i was recollecting some of the things that i personally experienced ... believe me its pretty hard to come out of it ...
Time might heal all that u have lost and act as a medicine .. but when u come across such a situation though u r strong to handle those things they leave u disturbed for some time atleast...
I was surprised to see my colleague to be back in the office the very next day ..
as rightly said by her that she forgets about what happened to her once she is with people and gets involved in the work.
I was moved when she said that " I came to office because i know there are many other plp like me with some or the other problem and i think i can see them and forget about my loss"..
Well said my dear friend and hats off to ur courage...